03 Beyond to heal and to be healed
I wrote that it is my ego that I expect a client’s excellent result. But realistically, I am happy when a client gets healthier and happier. I simply rejoice that. Fear or desire are gone from the client’s face. It is a pleasant experience.
It is again my ego, but I feel uneasy when the client comes back having the similar issue. I will try to be myself, meaning not to be influenced by my ego.
There may be many reasons to have the similar issue repeatedly. It is not a single reason. It must be intricately intertwined. Let me make up a probable story to explain further.
There is a couple. The wife often comes back to a healing session. She has been depressed because of her husband’s attitude. The husband has been irritating for a long time. He is suffered from his work. His company needs an urgent cost reduction because of a recent economic crisis caused by a natural disaster. The disaster seems to result from the climate change and continues.
In this story, I wanted to say that we are living in an all interconnected world. Nothing is separated, but all are interacting. If I want to solve a problem for the wife, I guess I had to work on the worldwide issues.
If somebody wants to be happy, I think everyone has to be happy. You cannot be happy alone. I am not happy if my family member has cancer. I cannot enjoy an exotic vacation if I find poor people working to support it. One cannot be happy alone. We are all interconnected.
Then, is it impossible to be happy?
Here is a trick. We do not try to change anything but only our mind. We change our mind, not the world. We think we can change the world and it is possible to some extent. But most likely, you will fall into an endless desire to change. It will never end but even increase. It is like a king desires the other king’s land. If the king conquers whole Earth, next expedition may be Mars.
There is always conflict if you want to change the other. Everybody is different and wants different future. So, it will never be the same agenda. Conflict is suffering because some may have to compromise. A strong one will not, but a weak one will do.
Now, we understand the trick. So, let’s go back to the story. We say “everything is coming from the mind.” Depression is also coming from the mind. It is the mind which projects depressive thoughts.
The husband is not her mind to generate negative thoughts. Her husband is external negative cause to her. So, if the wife can train and reprogram her mind to react to the negative cause peacefully, she will not suffer from him. That is the trick. She doesn’t try to change him. She can apply the trained mind to anything in the world. Then, she is always peaceful.
Some may think she cannot be peaceful alone, but this is not the case. It is because she is technically helping him by achieving her peace. In my meditation class, we learn this unique way much deeper. It helps both sides.
Meditation trains your mind and reprograms your habit to respond to incoming information in a peaceful way. Usually, we are programmed to react to specific information with negative thoughts “without realizing it.” This automatic reaction, which is a habit, can harm your mind and body. So, you need to reprogram it to benefit you. And then, you can be calm and have a sharp mind whatever happens. You do not react with anger or desire but with love and compassion. Interestingly, if you reach this level, it saves the others around you. In the story, the wife will save his husband and even more.
Let’s go back to the main subject. Why do clients come back having the similar issue? It is because there are more intertwined causes around the world. That’s why the similar issue keeps happening. If we do not change ourselves, we will continue to have health and mind problems endlessly.
That’s why we train our mind and reprogram our habit by meditation. Then, it benefits you and even around you. It will solve your current issues and prevent our future problems from occurring.